Can you refuse to allow? In 2019, the dietary trend was a diet-free diet. The image of tolerant eating is gentle – free from refusal and discipline. That’s why it also awakens wondering: can you really live healthy and lose weight if you don’t deny yourself. Especially if the relationship with food has been black and white, the belief in unauthorized eating control can be put to the test. Wouldn’t you just crush the delicacies with the stomach? Does it go out of the goat if self-discipline is laid off? Can you refuse and be tolerant?
Allowing food is not giving up
Allowing an eating relationship does not mean that doing something about eating and choosing food would be unreasonable. It does not mean giving up on the goals or giving up for every upcoming food invasion. Tolerance is that no food is completely forbidden. Instead, the permissive refusal is not excluded.
Understanding that there is no perfection in food matters brings tolerance and flexibility to eating. Indeed, nutrition is nothing but black and white: some food can be good on one hand and bad on another. Unfortunately, at the leaf headline level, foods are often divided into extremes, either a) superfood or b) carcinogenic killer.
The diet ratio develops throughout life
It would be good for everyone to think about how their own relationship has evolved from childhood to today. Children are naturally skilled to eat: they eat when they are hungry, and stop when the stomach is full. At best, all foods are good – both carrots and biscuits. A gentle adult can guide the child to tolerance: “this time is not taken”. An adult moves his / her own food relationship, attitude and habit to the child – both good and bad. For example, if an adult adheres to a reason or another strict diet, the child’s diet will be colored with bans. If an adult always comforts a child with food, the child who is in need of comfort will also seek food as a parent.
Eating adults is also driven by hunger, often with moods, emotions, rush, fatigue, diets… External stimuli often drive over internal messages. Are you a gentle adult who asks what the stomach feels like, suppresses food-related excesses, and conserves in the arms rather than food?
Tolerance makes minds easier
Tolerance is not a feature of deeds, but a factor. It is seen in relation to food: how food is valued or divided, what gets and should not be eaten, how unconditional it is in its choices, whether eating is bad conscience…
So the proper diet cannot be properly judged from the outside. Someone may not be eating at all, but still be flexible in their minds. One can eat delicacies every day, but always enjoy themselves. The third does not eat delicacies, but has to deny them absolutely. The fourth eats delicacies on a regular basis, while enjoying and controlling.
If you’re wondering whether you are a tolerant or restrictive eater, go through the sections of the triangle. Vegetables, fruits and berries, cereal products, dairy products or similar plant-based preparations, fat sources, fish and poultry, meat products and red meat, and coincidences. Think about whether there are different food groups for the foods you have banned from yourself. Why are those foods forbidden on the list? Would you like to eat the foods you have banned?
When it comes to easing eating bans, one can notice that the temptation is not as great as imagined. When nothing is denied, the temptations do not grow into megalomania. In fact, with a flexible mentality, we usually achieve better and more permanent weight management results. Food does not need to be stressed, and eating planning does not take time and resources indefinitely.
The refusal is also part of permissive eating
In western society, the number of factors that stimulate eating is high: advertisements, TV shows, magazines, a selection of shops, tasting of food, social situations… If all of these stimuli are answered by eating, eat much more than just the body’s need. Long-lasting weight management involves some kind of opposition to mentalities and temptations.
However, refusing or resisting temptations can be done in many ways: with absolute or more flexible grip. The absolute refusal is reflected in candy lacquers and strict diets. Exceptions are not allowed, they are seen as failures. Prohibition can also be made more tolerant, sounding mind, situation, body feelings, thoughts. It’s a different thing to refuse this time than to always refuse. It’s a different thing to refuse, even if you could, than refuse, because you shouldn’t.
When you learn to recognize when you really want to eat, it is also easier to refuse. Can you refuse food from another if you don’t want to eat? Did you allow yourself not to eat if you don’t really mind? Often we eat when there is an opportunity. For example, a candy day once a week can arouse the idea “because I can only eat candy today, so now I have to eat, even if you don’t mind”. Could candy be eaten instead, when it is really the mind?
FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
- What kind of relationships did you or your neighbors have in your childhood?
- What factors make you eat: hunger, thirst, mind, habit, social conditions, emotional state, fatigue, lack of doing?
- Do you divide foods into ‘allowed’ and ‘forbidden’?
- How do you see failure or success in relation to eating?
- Do you feel bad conscience about eating?